Missionaryįor this one, “The receiver lies on their back, and the giver crawls between their legs and sucks,” Howard says. Ditto goes if it has an upward tilt, and is lower than your mouth. If their penis or dildo is tilted down and they’re taller than you, it will work. Standardįace it: The most classic BJ position of all time is from your knees.ĭepending on the height and angle of your partner’s goods, that may work just fine for deep throating, too. “The receiver might hold a wand vibrator against the giver’s bits while they do so,” she notes. Next, have the receiver straddle the giver’s mouth, rocking their hips forward and back to slide their bits in and out of the giver’s throat. Have the giver lay on the bed on their back, head tilted back over the edge of the bed, “which opens up the throat,” says Stubbs. “Any position that optimizes the opening of the throat with the angle of the is ideal,” says St. “But practicing putting a dildo or your own fingers in your mouth will help you learn how deep you can comfortably take a partner.” “You don’t want to use a hot dog, banana, or cucumber,” says Stubbs. “Your throat will likely be very raw when the numbing agent wears off.” “If you use a numbing lubricant, you’re not going to be able to tune in and adjust to your body’s limits,” says Stubbs. “But flavored lubricant adds in an additional sense (taste) into the experience for you.” When you start using your hands, you may want more than spit to support the slide-and-glide of your hands along the shaft. “Using your hands is a great way to keep your mouth from getting tired, as well as a great way to stimulate the entire penis and mix up sensations,” says Howard. Or, ya know, gaze lovingly into their eyes like the softy you are. One of the best ways to ramp up the intimacy quotient of deep throating is to stare down your partner as you do. They give you insight into what your partner does and does not like. You always want to be tuned into those cues throughout. You shouldn’t *only* pay attention to their body language cues when you graze the tip. You can also ask, “Do you like when I lick the head, or is it too sensitive?” Pay attention to their body language Use verbal and nonverbal communication to figure out what your partner likes.Īre they shifting their hips toward your mouth when you focus on the tip? Odds are good they enjoy having their head stimulated.Īre they shifting their hips away or grimacing when you focus on the tip? Odds are they don’t. That means some penis owners will LOVE having it touched directly between deep-throat thrusts, and others may find it overstimulating. “The head of the penis is a bed of sensitive nerve endings,” says Stubbs. You can increase the pace and amount of penis or dildo in your mouth as momentum builds. “Spend some time licking the shaft, circling the head, sucking the tip, and flicking the frenulum,” suggests Stubbs. Start slowĭon’t go from zero to deep throat - gradually work your way up to having the entire phallus in your mouth. Learn more about oral sex and STIs here.īefore we get into the down and dirty deets of DT, let’s get some oral sex basics out of the way. Signs you may be pushing yourself too far:Īll that said: Yes, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can be transferred during oral sex. “But like most sexual activities we might try, there’s some risk if you don’t know your personal limits or listen to your body.” “Deep throating is typically safe,” says clinical sexologist Megan Stubbs, Ed.D, author of the forthcoming book “ Playing Without a Partner: A Singles’ Guide to Sex, Dating, and Happiness.” Other injuries include throat rawness, throat bruising, gagging, and vomiting.Īll that said, deep throating itself isn’t actually dangerous. Ruptured airways, also known as a tracheobronchial injury, aren’t the only possible deep throat injury. “Excuse the bad angle but remember when I sucked a hulk sized d*** and ended up in ER afterwards LMFAO never forget,” read the tweet. If you’re an active Twitter user, you likely remember the tweet that went viral in July 2018 featuring a man who ruptured his airways giving head. PSA: Safety is a real concern - and we’re not just talking STIs